Being able to recognize if your spouse is an alcoholic can be difficult in many ways. Understanding your partners drinking habits and your own possible role as an enabler can be as stressful to your emotional well-being as your partners alcoholism.
So anyway, the first signs to look out for are to found in a regular drinking pattern. You should be asking yourself things like, is drinking a daily habit or is it just a weekend thing? Do they grab out for a drink after an earful from the kids? or Do they blame regular drinking spouts on stress related incidents?
Alcoholics in general tend to always come up with the same excuses for an excessive drinking pattern. A partner who just has the odd drink socially is not on par with one who always visits the pub regularly after work for a relaxing drink. If your partner falls into the latter category then I am afraid that he has become dependent on alcohol to a certain degree.
Many recovering alcoholics state that they always tended to blame someone else for all of their problems; their boss was difficult, their spouse nagged all the time, money was scarce. Instead of admitting to any responsibility, they drank their problems away. Has your spouse been blaming everyone around them for their perceived problems?
Alcohol really does have a negative effect on the family life as an alcoholic soon forgets his family commitments and responsibilities. Should you be feeling the brunt of the family financial burden then you may want to take a closer look at what your spouse is spending on booze.
It really doesn’t matter whether you have read an article or seen a statistical survey as the answer to all of these questions will always be an affirmative one, meaning an alcoholic is present within the family. One difficulty arising from this subject is that each case can be different and you don’t need to just look at quantity but also at resulting behavior problems due to alcohol intake. There is a solution to this but the first step is for the two of you to sit down and start to talk about the problem.
The important thing to remember while trying to stay sober is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There are many others just like you and together, you can help each other.
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